“Because it’s not feelings — it’s not emotions,” Culbertson said, the smile fading from his tanned face. “For most Christians, at some point in your marriage, if you’re married long enough, you do it because that’s what we’re called to do — out of obedience instead of out of passion. And I think that’s where Mark and Jenny are right now.
From here.
Is that what passes for traditional marriage?
June 30th, 2009 4:03 pm
Love takes many forms but passion really doesn’t. They’re easily confused. Longevity proves love over passion, in my opinion, not that one must dominate the other. Rather, I thing they work together to keep bonds strong and when one is tested, the other may supply needed reinforcement to help a relationship endure.
July 1st, 2009 3:58 am
I didn’t read the original article; but I tend to agree with you. Marriage is, and should be, all about love. But love is not what modern society tends to advertise (infatuation, romance, passion), although that ‘love’ also is important in a marriage. Love is at its core about commitment and care. So marriage is all about love.
I admit a bias, however, I have a problem with the legalisation/secularisation of marriage in general. So my response is a little predictable.
June 30th, 2009 4:22 pm
Paul, I agree with you – but what I understand the ’spiritual advisor’ to say was that after so long, marriage is more about being married than about loving. I’m afraid that he will enforce obedience to the marriage certificate than to the marriage bond itself, which should be love.
July 1st, 2009 8:20 am
I suspect we fill the same way, Damian.